Why You Lose (or Gain) Weight while Your Spouse is Deployed

Before your spouse leaves, things are probably a bit chaotic. Routine may be tossed out the window because you’re focusing on packing lists, seeing people, pre-deployment leave, and quality time with each other. After they’ve been gone for a bit, you start to get into a new routine. Depending on your occupation, your schedule is likely more consistent, making it easier to create new routines.  Read More

Retirement Options for Women

Women work fewer years and contribute less toward their retirement, resulting in lower lifetime savings.  On average, a female retiring at age 65 can expect to live another 21 years, nearly 3 years longer than a man the same age. Savings can increase a woman’s chances of having enough money to last during her retirement. Normally, women invest more conservatively than men. Read More

Mission Ready: Aquatics Is Essential

Many individual service members struggle with different aquatics skills, making teaching in a group setting difficult. Many factors contribute to apprehension in the water – ranging from financial access to social expectations. So, by the time they enlist, many can’t swim at all, much less carry the required gear in, around, or underwater. Read More

Hauoli Socially Inspired

My business, Hauoli Socially Inspired, came about accidentally. An old colleague from my former career asked me to manage his restaurant’s social media and website. When I realized I could make this a business and acquire more clients, I knew I wanted to name my business after my father. Hauoli which means happy in Hawaiian. It incorporated my Hawaiian culture and the way I operate whatever project I’m involved in. Read More

7 Self-Care Practices

Mindfulness invites us to stay in our hearts- not just in our heads. The mind builds narratives to convince us we are in control- but in the heart lives the everlasting trust that life unfolds from our own presence and our own will of participation with experiences around us. Read More

IML Must-Read: Open When: Letters of Encouragement for Military Spouses

There’s a new book for military spouses, and it’s making waves in the milspouse community! Open When: Letters of Encouragement for Military Spouses released September 21st from Elva Resa Publishing of Military Family Books. The book is a collection of short letters for military spouses and significant others to “open when” they face common military life challenges. There are topics for every stage of the military life journey… Read More

Breath Awareness + Coming Home

Breath impacts how we digest things (foods, thoughts, and feelings). Breath is a birthright that can train our nervous system and body towards optimal health and resilience. Breath is a superpower for keeping you centered, relaxed and clear. This is just the beginning. Here is a simple tool to find your breath this week.  Read More

Networking the MilSpouse Style

The military spouse community is a network that is rich in knowledge, experience, and support. My thriving network of military spouses has taught me so much about myself, this military life, resilience, and the importance of relying on community. Military spouses are the most understanding, flexible, supportive, and loyal people I have ever known. Read More

The Phone and the Doorbell

By now, I’m sure you’ve heard of the crisis in Afghanistan.  While I’m not going to bog you down with my political views in light of this situation, I will tell you about my personal perspective on the loss of our service members and how it has affected this retired Navy spouse. 23 years ago, my husband left for Bootcamp.  We were both kids, and at the time, it seemed like the world was…  Read More

What is Meditation + Overcoming Overthinking

Meditation is truly a non-doing, which goes against our social norms and can be challenging for those beginning. The practice takes shape in so many ways from sitting in self-reflection to listening to guided meditations and so many more. If one style does not work for you, explore others. Note that meditation is… Read More